Wedding Invitations – When to send them out???

Happy Wedding Wednesday!

Have I got an exciting topic for you today!!!

Stationery timelines!

You may be saying “huh?” Right about now, but I promise that I will explain it all to you! (And if you have any questions, shoot me an e-mail at hello@uptowndesigns.ca)

I know, I know, maybe this topic isn’t something that is terribly exciting to you, but it really is necessary information when you are planning your wedding!

Over the years that I have been in business, THE most popular question is:

“When should I send out my invitations?”

So, I decided to put a handy little chart together for all of you lovely couples who have this burning question!

This chart will give you an overall idea of the timing for ordering and sending stationery related to your wedding.

There are some other little suggestions however that I am going to point out.

1 – If you are planning a destination wedding, sending out a Save The Date to your guests is essential! Your guests will have to plan for this expense so providing as much time as possible to them is in very good taste.

2 – You’ll notice that the general rule is to send your invitations around 6-8 weeks before your wedding. There are however situations where you should provide a little extra time for your guests to plan to attend. For example, if you are hosting a local wedding and have not sent out a Save The Date, you should give your guests a little extra time so I would suggest sending your invitations out 8-10 weeks before the big day.
Also, if you choose to host your wedding on a long weekend when people may plan to go away, you should definitely send your invites out 10-12 weeks prior.

I hope this little chart has been helpful! If there are any other scenarios that you would like to know about, please send me a message!

As always, have a fabulous day!

xo Danika

No kiddies please – Part Two

Well, apparently this is one hot topic so we are going to get just a little more in depth with this one!

As a bride or groom, communicating your wishes for your special day can be a little bit challenging…there will always be one person (perhaps more) who disagree with how you choose to do things.

This can cause unnecessary stress during what is one of the most important times in your life.

The thing is, how you approach the situation can definitely cut off any push back from your guests before it even happens.

In our last post we talked about different ways that you can communicate to your guests that children aren’t invited. Maybe because you want to avoid a scenario like this one ->

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Today we are go to talk a little bit about some things that you should consider when you are making this decision.

Is your wedding local to most of your guests?

If it is, this will make it much easier for your guests to make babysitting arrangements so they are able attend. Let’s face it, some parents aren’t terribly fond of spending a night away from their little ones (I was definitely guilty of that one when they were younger!!!)

If you are hosting an out of town or destination wedding, some of your guests may graciously bow out if they aren’t comfortable leaving their little ones behind!

The other BIG thing we didn’t talk about was the fact that sometimes exceptions may need to be made.

A few examples of these would be when you have guests with a newborn or a baby who is breast feeding, your flower girls, your ring bearers, does anyone in your bridal party have children?

Any “exception” can be a touchy subject and ultimately it is up to the bride and groom. If you decide no children, you can definitely stick to your guns to ensure none of your guests have hurt feelings. You will also have to understand that some of your guests may choose not to come if their young children are not invited.

I do think every wedding is different and every couples wishes are going to be different.

If you decide to make an exception for any of the above reasons, that is completely up to you. My only advice on this subject would be that if you DO make any exceptions, make sure you are prepared to tactfully respond to any guests who may not necessarily agree with your wishes. <- THIS IS OK! It is YOUR wedding and the more heartfelt your response is to them, the more understanding they will be!

From a personal stand point as a parent – I would prefer to have my kids at home enjoying themselves! (They are not babies anymore and I may have felt differently when they were teeny tiny). Alas, they are both in school so a night out kid free is rare event and very much appreciated!

PLUS – I don't know about you, but I don't know many children who can sit still for 10 minutes let alone an hour or more for all of the speeches!! 😉

Well, I hope that helps answer any additional questions that my last post created!

If there are more or any other topics that you would like to hear about, e-mail me at hello@uptowndesigns.ca and I will do my best to post about it!

Have a wonderful night!

xo Danika

Etiquette – No kiddies please!

Helllllloooooo Tuesday!

It sure has been a while since I’ve posted on here. Our last series was all about the adventures of DIY invitations! If you missed that one, You can check out Part 1 here – DIY Part 1

As a stationery designer, I get a lot of questions about proper etiquette when it comes to wedding invitations….everything from wording to how to properly address your invitations so I have decided to put together a brand new series all about etiquette!

The first topic that we are going to address is how to communicate that your wedding is adults only. This decision could be for one of many reasons…you are having an evening wedding, black tie affair, or you would really just prefer to avoid screaming children distracting your guests from the main event like this one – >

 

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Calm down folks! This is MY son at MY wedding. 😉 He stayed for the ceremony and about an hour of our wedding and I have to admit that we were much more relaxed once we knew that he was home and HAPPY!

The fact is that you have spent many many months planning your wedding and you want it to be perfect! (Or at least as close to perfection as possible!)

Let’s get back to the important stuff!

You’ve made the decision and now you need to communicate your wishes to your guests. Here are a few ways to do go about doing this:

1 – Address the envelopes properly! According to tradition, if the child is invited, their name should be included on the envelope below their parents names. We’ll elaborate on this hot topic in a later post all about addressing envelopes properly! (I know, exciting, right?!)

2 – You can indicate the number of guests on the RSVP card by wording it something like this :
“We have reserved ___ seats in your honour”. Before sending out your invitations, simply write the let number of guests that you are inviting on that line.

3 – You can call your guests individually. Some people may not understand your decision and your guests will most likely appreciate the extra gesture of speaking to you personally. This way you can also explain to them why this is important to you on your special day.

 

If you have something in particular that you are struggling with when it comes to etiquette regarding your stationery, drop me a line at hello@uptowndesigns.ca and I will do my best to write a blog post just for you!

 

xo Danika

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The Low-Down on DIY – Part 1

So, we’ve talked a little bit about custom invitations…now it’s time to talk DIY!

I’ll start by saying that I LOOOOOVE crafty brides! I love how passionate DIY’ers are about putting their own personal stamp into such an important life event! 🙂

***Trust me on this!  I was a TOTAL DIY bride and I still love trying out new projects!

I did my own invitations – stay tuned tomorrow for that photo.  😉

Here’s a perfect example of a recent project –  gigantic flowers that a photographer friend (Little Orchid Photography) and I made for a local Easter event! I still can’t get over how amazing they turned out!

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Not bad, eh???

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We used the tutorial on the Design Sponge website and made a few minor tweaks!

First things first…why do YOU want to go the DIY route?

Usually this decision is made for one of two reasons…

The first reason that I’d like to talk about is budget. Yes, we realize that this can be a scary word when it comes to weddings!

When you are thinking of making your invitations on your own solely for the purpose of saving money, there are a few things to consider:

Do you have the time to invest in making your invitations?

Do you enjoy being crafty?

So….ponder these quick questions and we will be back tomorrow with a brand new post that will delve into these little (possibly GIGANTIC) questions that we just posed.

 

Happy Wedding Wednesday to all of you beautiful brides (AND GROOMS) out there!!!

 

Have a fabulous day!

 

xo Danika

 

Wedding Invitation Wording

Now here’s a topic that I’m sure everyone is REALLY excited about! Wording!!!

Mr and Mrs Smith request the honour of your presence….
Or should you request the pleasure of their company?
Perhaps you’d rather just tell your guests that you’re getting hitched and having a backyard party?

When it comes to wording, you’ll have to think about the style of event you are hosting. Will it be a formal affair with gowns and tuxedos? Are you having a casual backyard wedding where sundresses and khakis are more appropriate?

So much to think about right? Why yes, yes it is. Even though an invitation is “just a piece of paper” – please note to NEVER say this to your invitation designer 😉
An invitation communicates so much to your guests!

For example – if you’re having a casual backyard wedding, you probably wouldn’t send out something like this
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You can’t read the wording, but this one is extremely formal. What do I mean by that?

Well, the wording goes a little something like this:

Mr and Mrs Edward Cavanaugh
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Katherine Marie
to
Johnathan Marcus
son of Mr and Mrs Christopher Grayson

Saturday the twenty fourth of November
two thousand and twelve
Half past Three in the afternoon
Our Lady of Lourdes Roman Catholic Church
Waterloo, Ontario

Dinner reception to follow
six o’clock in the evening
The Tannery Event Centre
Kitchener Ontario

Formal, right?

You’d probably want to send something a little more low key and most importantly FUN!

Like this perhaps?

Cream and light brown panel invitation with flower bouquet

This one is less formal, a little fun and incorporates the personality of the bride and groom.

“Together with their family and friends

Jackie & Craig

joyfully invite you to share in their

celebration of love, friendship, laughter, and family

as they exchange vows at the cottage.

…To be followed by an evening of food, music,

dancing, and laughter!

Guests are encouraged to dress for an outdoor ceremony and reception.

High heels and uncomfortable formal wear are not recommended.”

It all comes down to you. Yes, that’s right you. Your wedding, your wording. 🙂

*don’t forget about etiquette though* There will be another post about this coming soon!!!!

I think the point is that the wording (and the overall style) must reflect the event you are hosting.

I have lots of tips on this subject so if you are stumped, shoot me an e-mail. I can try to help!

As always – have a fabulous day!!!!

xo Danika

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