No kiddies please – Part Two

Well, apparently this is one hot topic so we are going to get just a little more in depth with this one!

As a bride or groom, communicating your wishes for your special day can be a little bit challenging…there will always be one person (perhaps more) who disagree with how you choose to do things.

This can cause unnecessary stress during what is one of the most important times in your life.

The thing is, how you approach the situation can definitely cut off any push back from your guests before it even happens.

In our last post we talked about different ways that you can communicate to your guests that children aren’t invited. Maybe because you want to avoid a scenario like this one ->

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Today we are go to talk a little bit about some things that you should consider when you are making this decision.

Is your wedding local to most of your guests?

If it is, this will make it much easier for your guests to make babysitting arrangements so they are able attend. Let’s face it, some parents aren’t terribly fond of spending a night away from their little ones (I was definitely guilty of that one when they were younger!!!)

If you are hosting an out of town or destination wedding, some of your guests may graciously bow out if they aren’t comfortable leaving their little ones behind!

The other BIG thing we didn’t talk about was the fact that sometimes exceptions may need to be made.

A few examples of these would be when you have guests with a newborn or a baby who is breast feeding, your flower girls, your ring bearers, does anyone in your bridal party have children?

Any “exception” can be a touchy subject and ultimately it is up to the bride and groom. If you decide no children, you can definitely stick to your guns to ensure none of your guests have hurt feelings. You will also have to understand that some of your guests may choose not to come if their young children are not invited.

I do think every wedding is different and every couples wishes are going to be different.

If you decide to make an exception for any of the above reasons, that is completely up to you. My only advice on this subject would be that if you DO make any exceptions, make sure you are prepared to tactfully respond to any guests who may not necessarily agree with your wishes. <- THIS IS OK! It is YOUR wedding and the more heartfelt your response is to them, the more understanding they will be!

From a personal stand point as a parent – I would prefer to have my kids at home enjoying themselves! (They are not babies anymore and I may have felt differently when they were teeny tiny). Alas, they are both in school so a night out kid free is rare event and very much appreciated!

PLUS – I don't know about you, but I don't know many children who can sit still for 10 minutes let alone an hour or more for all of the speeches!! 😉

Well, I hope that helps answer any additional questions that my last post created!

If there are more or any other topics that you would like to hear about, e-mail me at hello@uptowndesigns.ca and I will do my best to post about it!

Have a wonderful night!

xo Danika

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